“It’s ok,” “easy,” “relax,” “no,” “shhhhh,” “almost there,” “where’s my helmet,” “ is my girth tight,” “it’s windy,” “there are too many horses in the warm-up ring,” “my stomach hurts,” “ oh I don’t think I can do this,” “my horse is up today,” “ my horse is nervous,”.
The list goes on and on.
It’s nervous talk. Every rider in every discipline is guilty of it. We all do it. And who can blame us? What we do is scary, challenging and thrilling. But that’s exactly what we love about it.
Nervous talk only hurts us and our horses. We elevate into the failure zone. Nervous talk makes us nervous. We feel nervous and we talk to ourselves thinking it’s helping. Somehow, we also think it helps our horses relax. But, this is not the case. In fact, it's far from it. We are nervous. We talk nervous. Our horses feel nervous.
So, let’s change our nervous talk to something positive. Let’s give ourselves and our horses ego boosters. Let’s take more lessons, invest in more training, do plenty of groundwork. Let's put ourselves in different venues and become better prepared. Let's start putting the miles in. Let's stay fit and healthy. Let's give our horses the best care and be sure they are fit and ready, as well, for the next adventure.
And as we ride, talk away, but try to put a focus on positive talking. “We got this,” “let’s go,” “good boy,” “good girl.” Smile. Even a tiny smile sends calm to our minds and our mounts. Don’t forget to breathe. Pet your horses and enjoy yourself. What we do as equestrians is positive, thrilling and fun. Let’s enjoy it. All of it. We are blessed to do what we do. We are brave to do what we do.
Let’s walk the walk and talk the talk.