Identify and Overcome Obstacles Along Your Horsemanship Journey
In the face of obstacles along your horsemanship journey, the quality that separates the successful riders from the unsuccessful riders is their attitude about their obstacles.
The unsuccessful rider, when faced with an obstacle in their trail, thinks “Why me,” and is overwhelmed by feelings of doubt, annoyance, anger, failure, fear, etc. They feel like they can’t do anything about the obstacle and it leads to them quitting.
The successful rider, when faced with an obstacle in their trail, thinks of it as an opportunity to grow and improve. Sure, they experience feeling of annoyance, irritation, anger, self-doubt, and maybe even fear. The difference is that they find a way to overcome the obstacle and continue on. They have mental toughness, they are gritty, and they stick to their journey.
So, how do successful riders do it? And how can you develop this ability?
One method to help develop the mental toughness to overcome obstacles is the “Identify and Overcome Exercise.” In this exercise, you identify your feelings about the obstacle and then think of a way to overcome it.
Step 1: Identify the obstacle and your feelings about the obstacle.
Clearly, state the obstacle and how you feel about it. For example Obstacle: My competitors have better horses, more money, more resources, more time, etc. Feeling: It makes me feel discouraged, not good enough, sad, etc. By clearly identifying the obstacle and how you feel about it, you can then develop a plan to overcome it, and replace the negative feeling with action.
Step 2: What can you do to overcome the obstacle?
Brainstorm ideas to overcome the obstacle. What can you do about it? What action can you take? Think outside of the box. Ask a friend or your trainer what they would do. And, keep it positive! Use this format: I can overcome this by….
For example: Action: I can overcome this obstacle by focusing on improving my skills and my horse’s skills, I can overcome this obstacle by celebrating the small victories/achievements, I can overcome this obstacle by keeping focused on my own goals, I can overcome this obstacle by trading mucking for stalls for more riding lessons, etc. Pick out your favorite solution from your brainstorming list, and write it down.
Step 3: Take action! Now, the next time you find yourself thinking about the obstacle and getting sucked into the negative feelings, instead think of your “I can overcome this by” statement, and then go out and actually take action!
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